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  • Find Self-Affirmations Cheesy? Try Self-Affirming Acts
    by Page on August 2, 2021 at 4:00 pm

    Maybe one day words of self-affirmation won’t feel so weird to me. But until then, I have self-affirming acts as something I can do, a way that I can show myself self-compassion using something other than words. The post Find Self-Affirmations Cheesy? Try Self-Affirming Acts appeared first on Poly Land.

  • You Fixed Me By Helping Me Learn to Fix Things
    by Page on August 1, 2021 at 4:00 pm

    It blows me away sometimes — how much you fixed me by helping me learn to fix things myself. By teaching me I’m much more capable than I thought. The post You Fixed Me By Helping Me Learn to Fix Things appeared first on Poly Land.

  • I Hate How People Assume “If Adding More People, Relationship Is Broken”
    by Page on July 31, 2021 at 4:00 pm

    There’s a saying in polyamorous circles that has been around for a very long time — longer than I’ve been in them, that’s for sure. It’s “relationship broken, add more people.” It’s a recipe for disaster, something that’s said with a laugh about a certain kind of couple that might find themselves either exploring polyamory or opening up some other way. The post I Hate How People Assume “If Adding More People, Relationship Is Broken” appeared first on Poly Land.

  • Vulnerability — or Too Much, Too Much! On My Terms
    by Page on July 30, 2021 at 4:00 pm

    I’ve been there so many times. Excited to be in a situation. Figuratively swept off my feet by a new person or opportunity — beset by New Relationship Energy. And then there’s a moment of terror when I realize that I’ve left the ground. The post Vulnerability — or Too Much, Too Much! On My Terms appeared first on Poly Land.

  • I Can’t Believe You Made Me Trust Again
    by Page on July 29, 2021 at 4:00 pm

    I should have been jaded. Should have lost all hope. And I think I would have… if you hadn’t shown up when you did, giving me more reason to trust than I ever had before. The post I Can’t Believe You Made Me Trust Again appeared first on Poly Land.

  • On Having to Repeat Yourself When Your Partner Feels Loved Via Words of Affirmation
    by Page on July 28, 2021 at 4:02 pm

    It can be more jarring sometimes to have to repeatedly say kind things. I get that. Especially if you’re someone who hates to repeat yourself. But Words of Affirmation isn’t unique in this respect. It’s just like the other Love Languages in that it isn’t one and done. The post On Having to Repeat Yourself When Your Partner Feels Loved Via Words of Affirmation appeared first on Poly Land.

  • You Say You’re Broken… Like an Overpowered Game Mechanic, Maybe.
    by Page on July 27, 2021 at 4:00 pm

    If you’re broken, it’s the other kind. You’re like an overpowered game mechanic — the kind that the player discovers and it instantly renders them incredibly powerful and the game ridiculously easy. “That’s so broken,” gamers say when they discover something like that. The post You Say You’re Broken… Like an Overpowered Game Mechanic, Maybe. appeared first on Poly Land.

  • Cool Things Happen When You Stop Running From Who You Are
    by Page on July 26, 2021 at 4:00 pm

    It’s a terrifying notion when you’re scared of yourself (a feeling I understand very well), but magical things can happen when you stop running from who you are and just let it catch you.  The post Cool Things Happen When You Stop Running From Who You Are appeared first on Poly Land.

  • Sometimes People Just Need to Hurt
    by Page on July 25, 2021 at 4:00 pm

    One day it became crystal clear: You can’t make anyone feel anything. Feeling is this complex process that also involves the person having the emotions to varying degrees.  The post Sometimes People Just Need to Hurt appeared first on Poly Land.

  • Loyalty Is Beautiful, But Sometimes You Need to Leave.
    by Page on July 24, 2021 at 4:00 pm

    Sometimes people who would leave you in a heartbeat if it benefitted them (like an employer who does layoffs willy-nilly) will be the most likely to complain that they’re being victimized by an exit. The post Loyalty Is Beautiful, But Sometimes You Need to Leave. appeared first on Poly Land.

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